It doesn’t matter…

It doesn’t matter what type of life experiences you’ve slipped, dipped, or jumped into as a kid. 

Your past life experiences harness a formula that can guide, support, or motivate you into becoming a better leader at work, a better father at home, or a better version of yourself overall. Reflecting on your childhood opens up wounds we’ve been pushing down for yearrrrs, trust me, I’ve been there and its scary at first  because we don’t know how to trust ourselves yet with these childhood & adolescence experiences. But one thing is for sure; those experiences have played a major role in our current and everyday lives within our daily decisions and our beliefs about this world.

Human growth happens in two main stages. From ages 2 to 12, kids learn important things like being curious, confident, handling tough times, and getting good at different tasks. This is when they're really exploring and learning about the world.

Then, from ages 12 to 18, they start to understand more about why they are the way they are. During these teen years, they figure out who they are, get better at dealing with hard situations, and think more about what they're good at and what they want to do in life. Both these stages are key in helping someone grow up to be a well-rounded person.

So just to clarify–In childhood, we develop curiosity, confidence, resilience, and performance skills. These are the years when we're most open to exploring the world and learning new things.

As teenagers, we start to understand why we have these traits, shaping our identity and honing our ability to handle complex challenges and assess our strengths and weaknesses.

As adults, looking back at these stages helps us recognize and address areas where we might not have fully developed. For instance, if we struggled with confidence as a child, reflecting on those experiences can help us understand why and work on building confidence now. Similarly, if our curiosity wasn’t developed in adolescence, we might rediscover it in adulthood, opening up new avenues for learning and growth.

Reflecting on our past also helps us identify 'forgotten' attributes or skills we didn't fully explore or develop. By understanding our past selves, we can nurture these aspects in our present life, leading to a more fulfilling and well-rounded adulthood. This process of reflection and growth is not just about fixing mistakes; it's about recognizing the continuous journey of self-improvement and personal development that extends well into our adult lives.

Why should we delve into our past experiences, and why now? It turns out, exploring your past through self-reflection and self-therapy can significantly impact your personal life, family dynamics, and professional growth. Let's explore how.

Self Reflection: Benefits of Exploring your past checklist

1. Enhanced Self-Awareness: Understanding Your True Self

Key Point: Reflecting on your past experiences can help you understand your deep-rooted motivations, fears, and desires. This journey of self-awareness can lead to more informed decision-making in both personal and professional spheres.

"Self-awareness is a curse and a blessing... The blessing is now you having a starting point, no more guessing or reacting to life."

Real-Life Example: Steve Jobs, who attributed his success to the self-awareness he gained from his early experiences.

2. Improved Emotional Regulation: Controlling Your Reactions

Key Point: By understanding the roots of your emotional responses, you can better manage them. Recognizing why you react a certain way can lead to more balanced emotional responses.

"Most of our emotional responses come from our past... but our indicators can be found in the present moment."

Supporting Evidence: As per Harvard Business Review, emotional intelligence is crucial for professional success.

3. Healthier Relationships: Breaking Old Patterns

Key Point: Understanding your early family dynamics and friendships can help you identify and change patterns in your current relationships.

"I can’t tell you how many relationships turned south due to my past... You are a role model even if you can’t see it right now."

Market Data: Pew Research found that adults who understand their upbringing have more stable and satisfying relationships.

4. Building Resilience: Learning from Life's Challenges

Key Point: Reflecting on past challenges and how you overcame them can bolster your resilience, helping you face future challenges with confidence.

"The person you are now, is the person you needed when you were younger."

Supporting Data: Resilience is linked to life satisfaction and lower stress levels, reports the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

5. Personal Growth and Rediscovery: Embracing Forgotten Passions

Key Point: Delving into your past can help you rediscover lost interests and passions, leading to new hobbies and personal growth.

"Rediscovering long lost passions and interests are super important... Tap into the things you loved doing as a kid."

Market Insight: Gallup suggests that engaging in childhood interests leads to higher levels of happiness.

6. Improved Mental Health: Healing from the Past

Key Point: Confronting and understanding past traumas or unresolved issues can significantly improve your mental health, reducing anxiety and depression.

“Mental health is at an all time high... These 4 words are what causes mental overloads: quantity, quality, availability, and accessibility. We didn’t have these options growing up"

Supporting Data: The National Institute of Mental Health emphasizes the importance of confronting past issues in mental health treatment.

7. Better Parenting: Insights from Your Childhood

Key Point: Understanding your childhood experiences can provide valuable insights into your parenting style, helping you avoid repeating negative patterns.

"Once you become aware, you can sit in the driver's seat of your own life and change courses how you see fit now."

Market Data: University of California study shows that parents who understand their childhood tend to raise more emotionally stable children.

8. Career Satisfaction: Aligning Strengths with Your Role

Key Point: Self-reflection can reveal strengths and weaknesses relevant to your career, guiding you towards a more fulfilling path.

"Talk to someone who loves their job and then someone who hates it... It’ll help narrow down or navigate the job fields you find interesting."

Supporting Evidence: LinkedIn reports that employees who understand their core strengths are 8 times more likely to be successful in their job.

9. Authenticity: Living Your True Life

Key Point: Exploring your past helps align your actions with your true self, leading to a life of authenticity and fulfillment.

"Authenticity is deeply rooted in our passions... You can’t chase authenticity through your phone."

Market Insight: Forbes notes that authenticity is increasingly recognized as a key factor in successful leadership.

Reflecting on your past is not about dwelling on it but using it as a tool for self-improvement and growth. By understanding where you come from, you're better equipped to navigate where you are going, leading to a more enriched and fulfilling adult life.

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